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5 Dangers of Labels and Stereotypes
“Labels are for filing. Labels are for clothing. Labels are not for people.” --Martina Navratilova Labels can be very annoying and harmful. One problem many of us have with stereotypes is that they...
View ArticleWould You Rather Be Right or Would You Rather Be Happy?
“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” ~Lao TzuInternally, deep down, many people have the experience that they are damaged, broken, “not good enough,” or simply “not enough.” Such...
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What Are You Growing ... Trust or Distrust?
A recent CNNmoney.com article described WaterSaver Faucet Company's decision to install a swipe card system that monitors employees' bathroom visits outside of scheduled lunch and break times. At this...
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Rita Ora & Calvin Harris: Working Together After a Breakup?
At one time superstar music producer Calvin Harris and British singer Rita Ora were a harmonious pair in love and in their professional lives. But last month Calvin used Twitter to announce they were...
View ArticleHow My Mind Tricks Me Into Eating Biscuits and Gravy
Here’s a generalization: biscuits and gravy are unhealthy. Few people would disagree with that proposition, but many would protest its inflexibility. “It depends on how many you eat,” they might say.To...
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The importance of checking in with yourself
Many of my columns are centered on the alcoholic/addict and their behavior toward themselves, others or us. How we cope or deal with their situation becomes such a primary focus for us that often we...
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Is Jealousy One of the Emotions that Dogs Experience?
It seems that every year we get more data indicating the similarity between the emotional and mental life of human children and that of dogs. The issue of emotions in dogs is a very controversial one...
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Memo to All Incoming College Students About Sex
In just a few weeks some three million young people will head off to college for their freshman year. They won't listen to us go on and on about anything, but sex is pretty important--and there's a few...
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Top Ten Apps for Making Your Life Easier
We’re more mobile and we want apps. And now massive numbers of them are available, mostly for free. But which will be most useful to you?With millions of apps available, no one can honestly assert that...
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Perfectionism: Friend or Foe?
By Max Belkin, Ph.D.Procrastination and underperformance are often linked to unrealistic aspirations. When people pursue realistic goals, anxiety tends to be manageable and might actually increase...
View ArticlePerfect, It Turns Out, Is What Practice Doesn't Make
We've long been eager to believe that mastery of a skill is primarily the result of how much effort one has put in. Extensive practice "is probably the most reasonable explanation we have today not...
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Because I Said So
I’m still figuring out how to do boundaries well. Like many people, I’m pretty good at setting a boundary. But once that boundary is crossed, I get flummoxed.I usually resent it when someone steps on...
View ArticleHow People Are Scammed Again and Again
It seems that the easiest people to scam are those who have been scammed. According to Doug Shadel an expert at AARP: “It’s pretty well known in the fraud world that the best list to get is the list of...
View ArticleLionfish Invite Others to Hunt and Take Turns Dining
I'm always looking for research on the fascinating behavior of the nonhuman animals (animals) with whom we share our magnificent and diverse planet, and here's a summary of some very interesting...
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On The Sources of Stories.
I would like to consider the source of stories. To simplify, one might say that they are three: the unconscious mind, literature, and life itself.1) THE UNCONSCIOUS MINDThe romantics saw genius as...
View ArticleA Little Advice About Guns
DARBY, Pa. (AP) — Authorities are attempting to determine why a patient fatally shot a caseworker at a hospital complex in a Philadelphia suburb and whether a psychiatrist who pulled out his own gun...
View ArticleThree Reasons Childfree Couples Cheat Less
This past weekend I stumbled across a new study conducted by culture and trend expert Melissa Lavigne-Delville in which 1,000 people age 18 to 49 were asked about patterns of infidelity....
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Making Dating Sites Work for You
In theory, dating websites offer an efficient way to find Mr. or Ms. Right. Alas, poor vetting of potential matches and deceptive profiles and photos have caused more mismatches than matches. Here’s...
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