Making Peace With My Husband's Ex
When Will and I started dating, I didn’t expect a hug—or even a handshake—from Martha, his ex-wife, but I also didn’t anticipate that she would be so disagreeable that I would be tempted to grab a...
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Systems of Strengths
Yesterday I posted a blog focused on understanding the impact that winning and power has on our brain and behavior. The blog post was based on my reading of the brilliant new book by Ian Robertson and...
View ArticleWorker’s Comp Rules Turn Injured Workers into Addicts
California’s worker’s comp regulations have had the tragic, unintended consequence of creating lifelong drug addicts. Faced with more restrictive rules than before, workers compensation lawyers have...
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Phantom Pocket Vibration Syndrome
Have you had this experience? If you keep your phone in your pocket you sometimes (maybe even often) feel a vibration in the skin adjacent to your pocket and pull out your mobile phone, assuming it is...
View ArticleTEMPTATION
How do products tempt us? What makes them so alluring? It is easy to assume we crave delicious food or impulsively check email because we find pleasure in the activity. But pleasure is just half the...
View ArticleHippocratic Humility
The greatest doctor who ever lived was a very humble guy. Hippocrates is the father of medicine because he introduced the naturalistic conception of disease- you got sick because your organs weren't...
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America Healing Requires a Certain Kind of Love
The taxi driver, a wiry White man in his 30s with a reddish beard, said he had the answer. He was driving to the airport in Asheville, NC. I was returning from the W.K.Kellogg’s Foundation’s 3rd...
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Destigmatizing Childhood Mental Health
On May 9th the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), and U.S. Department of Health & Human Services will bring recognition to a much deserved cause as they launch the...
View ArticleWhat Has Anthony Weiner Learned from Twitter-gate?
I wouldn't typically turn to ex-congressman Anthony Weiner for advice on anything having to do with relationships, particularly in light of last year’s scandal involving his Internet hook-ups with...
View ArticleDoes NIMH Want to "Fail Better" than the DSM-5 Already Has?
I’m a long-time developer and promoter of social therapy and other cultural and relational therapeutic approaches—and a long-time critic of the medical model of relating to emotional distress, of...
View ArticleThe Pregnancy Perspective
I have the luxury of being six months pregnant. I say luxury, because there really is no better word to describe it. Physically, emotionally, and spiritually it has been the greatest granter of...
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Selfless Service, Part I: Is Selfless Service Possible?
"It is more blessed to give than to receive."– Acts 20:35"Ask not what your country can do for you — ask what you can do for your country."– John F. KennedyOne of the most extolled virtues of all time...
View ArticleDenise Richards: How Do You Do What’s Best For The Kids?
Denise Richards, ex-wife of Charlie Sheen and the mother of two of his children, now has temporary custody of Sheen’s sons with his other ex-wife Brooke Mueller. Brooke and Charlie have both struggled...
View ArticleAre You a Restless Leader?
Are You a Restless Leader?I have been thinking lately about recent Aberdeen Group research that year over year indicates consistent CEO concerns with significant business issues such as innovation,...
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Lessons Learned from 11 Years of Travel
Last weekend I had the honor of speaking to 600 people at Frequent Traveler University, a conference devoted to the world of points and miles.A longtime friend, Gary Leff, asked me to share a few...
View ArticleNo Such Thing As Failure
Last night, the husband and I went to listen to a talk by Stephen Sondheim. It was actually not a talk, but a conversation between Stephen Sondheim and some lady named Mary. Sorry, Mary, I have...
View Article20 Quotes to Encourage You & Inspire Resilience
Whether you're stressed out, pursuing a hard goal, or just trying to get through the day, these quotes will give you a boost of encouragement and resilience. “When one door of happiness closes, another...
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Got an Anger Disorder? Not According to the DSM.
I am a psychologist who specializes in helping couples to face their marriage problems, fix them, and then go on to enjoy long-lasting and long-loving marriage partnerships. A huge part of how I help...
View ArticleAnd If You Don't Have A Mom or Kids on Mother's Day?
My mother died when I was a teenager and, although I have grown step-sons, I have never raised a child of my own.My mother, who was sick for years and died and when I was sixteen, hungered for a...
View ArticleDo Only Fools Rush In?
'Wise men say only fools rush in, but I can't help falling in love with you."Elvis Presley“Love is for fools wise enough to take a chance.” Unknown“Love is the foolishness of men, and the wisdom of...
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