How to Tell if You’re a Pre-crastinator
The evils of procrastination are well known to everyone. Putting things off into the future that ought to be done now can create all kinds of havoc in your life. People have many reasons to...
View ArticleThe Hundred-Foot Journey
The Hundred-Foot JourneyA movie review by Dr. Lloyd Sederer Release date: August 8, 2014 (USA)====================================================================La France aux Français (France for the...
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On Women and Power
Last night my sixteen year old granddaughter and I went to see King Lear in the park. Staggering out at the end of the play, we spoke of its portrayal of powerful and violent women: the startling and...
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Why Is Being Alone With Our Thoughts So Hard?
Most people really don’t like being in their own heads, new research suggests. Some would even rather give themselves an electric shock instead of facing their thoughts.Timothy Wilson, psychology...
View ArticleIs Culture an Explanation?
When a Chinese-American woman doesn’t speak in class, someone will say it’s because of her culture. When a white woman doesn’t speak in class, someone will say it’s because of her gender. When a white...
View ArticleLook at your body as your paintbrush, not your canvas
If you have ever woken up in the morning, looked at yourself in the mirror, and thought, “I just can’t go outside looking like this,” you’re certainly not alone. Most of us have grown up with a double...
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So Long, Compulsory Sex! See Ya, Viagra! Asexuality is Here
[Bella's intro: We think society is oh-so-open-minded when it comes to sex. Sexual messages are everywhere. There are endless tips for how to get more sex and enjoy it more. But the incessant sex talk...
View ArticleComing Out As Mentally Ill to My Mother
It might be hard to believe this, but my mother is unaware of this blog. She’s a luddite, still writes on an old Brother word processor, doesn’t have any use for the Internet. I once explained that she...
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Disinheriting, Being Disinherited
Family is often fraught and moreso when a spouse or child gets disinherited. Perhaps these thoughts may prevent some pain.[1]Should you disinherit?In my view, the best reason to disinherit a close...
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Nosedive
It was Wednesday and I was scheduled to return to work that Monday, but first I had an appointment to see Dr. Adena (not her real name) on Friday morning. I was extremely anxious about both events. I...
View ArticleWhen Fear Makes People Fierce
As the poison-tipped arrows whiz past, you crawl toward the gully that winds toward the fortressed camp. You hope the captor won’t see you, or at least that his arrows won’t find you in the...
View ArticleWhen Bad Marriages Happen to Good Women
Status: Am despondent and have waves of despair pulling me under. I don't want to be alone and believe that we each have the right to be loved. How does >30 years of nurturing lead to a relationship...
View ArticleSave Your Marriage: Take the "One-A-Day-Challenge"
One criticism a day! Who am I kidding?I had seven criticisms today just from one of my husband Steve’s grocery shopping expeditions. Of course, I believed that every comment was crucial to his shopping...
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The Non-Verbal Dance that Happens in a Hug
Recently, upon departure of an event, I reached my arms out in an open fashion inviting a hug to say goodbye to a family friend. I waited to see if the person would respond to my non-verbal invitation...
View ArticleClassroom Design From an Instructor’s Perspective
I recently taught an intensive summer course on personality psychology. The class was held every day for a couple of hours during July. Although this was not my first teaching assignment, it was my...
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Should Your Spouse Keep A Spread Sheet On You?
The internet exploded this summer after Reddit featured a shocked wife who posted her husband's angry e-mail he sent her as she was driving to the airport. Her spouse sent her a spread sheet...
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Bully Victims are Created by Unstable Households
The older kids in the neighborhood prepared me for entering elementary school. They told me how the principal had a spanking machine, and if I was bad it would be used on me. Next they told me about...
View ArticleAdolescence and Giving Up What One is Good at Doing
Of course, all growing up requires giving up as old attachments are let go because they no longer satisfy or to make room for new involvements to occur.In general, parents are prepared for this kind of...
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End Bullying! Responding to Cruelty in Our Culture
San Diego Comic-Con panel: "End Bullying! Responding to Cruelty in Our Culture"Description: Have you or someone you love been a target of bullying? Pop Culture Anti-Bullying Coalition is back by...
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