Community Policing and Child Development
You could tell the police sergeants in blue from the lieutenants and chiefs in their white shirted uniforms. But 11 were there, including Dean Esserman the New Haven Chief of Police, representing their...
View ArticleThe Scent of Great Leadership
Imagine two almost exactly the same people standing in front of you making a presentation. Although not identical, they are both very similar in their physical characteristics, sharing the exact same...
View ArticleParenting a Substance Abuser
Parenting is an inherently guilt-inducing endeavor. Whether it's a skinned knee or a failing grade, parents find it hard to resist blaming themselves for their children's struggles. It's true that...
View ArticleHannibal's Cannibal Comedy
I am gaga about Bryan Fuller’s Hannibal, a visually intense and psychologically dense show with some of the best damn acting on TV. But it’s most overlooked aspect might be the humor.Granted, Hannibal...
View ArticleStudy Says Positive Coaching Lights Up Our Brains
Would you rather hear what you can have versus what you can’t? Most of us respond better to positive reinforcement than to that ever-dangling carrot just out of reach.Neuroscientists agree. In a recent...
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Have You Accidentally Sabotaged Your Motivation to Work?
"How can I motivate myself to work?"I've asked myself that question many times in my life.It’s funny, though. Here are some questions I've never asked:How can I motivate myself to eat pizza?How can I...
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Ten Back Pocket Phrases to Disarm Conflict
As I say all the time, “teamwork is hard work.” It requires great listening, genuine empathy, and a willingness to flex to what’s best for the team—even when it isn’t great for you. That kind of...
View ArticleA Natural Remedy for Caregiver Stress
All of us out here in the trenches of the brutal winter of 2014 (and that’s most of the USA) are yearning for signs of spring. Underneath that snow and ice, surely green shoots are valiantly trying to...
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Can Smiling Make Us Happy?
Go ahead, twitch a few facial muscles. When it comes to mood altering magic, it turns out that smiling really does make a difference. Not just to others, but to ourselves as well.Psychologists...
View ArticleThe Neuroscience of War
It is sometimes hard to keep track of all the conflicts going on in the world. Russia invades Crimea, Syria is a humanitarian nightmare, North Korea keeps popping off crappy missiles, and lets not...
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Welcoming Desire
We often hear spiritual teachers say that suffering is created by our attachments and that awakening means transcending desires. But might the opposite be true? Is suffering generated by a lack of...
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Obama Got Re-elected, Time for Some Porn!
I have written quite extensively about testosterone whether in my books (The Evolutionary Bases of Consumption; The Consuming Instinct: What Juicy Burgers, Ferraris, Pornography, and Gift Giving Reveal...
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Unconditional Love is Possible—But Only From Yourself
“Of all the people you'll ever know, you’re the only one you’ll never lose.” ~ Source Unknown I’ve long contended that to have a conflict-free relationship, what’s necessary is to create a clone of...
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Eating Disorder Stereotypes Hurt
Quick! What do you think of when you think of eating disorders?Bulimia? Anorexia? Women and girls? What do they look like? If it’s anything like the images and stories in the media and on the web,...
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Notes on a New Season
My birthday is in January, and for that reason you might guess that I love winter—winter sports, winter clothes, winter landscapes, cozy winter evenings curled up by the fire with a snifter of brandy...
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Parenting Tips from Don & Betty Draper? Why We Watch Mad Men
As we approach the last season of AMC’s Mad Men, Entertainment Weeklyran a story about Time Magazine’s cover story about the show called “Time’s Mad Men Cover Story: What We Learned.” Why are we mad...
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Mapping Cosmic Evolution with the ToK System
A couple of weeks ago, it was announced that the gravitational wave signature from the Big Bang had been detected in the cosmic microwave background radiation. If you are into physics and astronomy,...
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Are You Emotionally Cheating?
In our sex-obsessed culture, we tend to view intimacy as merely physical and narrow its focus to sexual activity. This, however, is not an accurate picture of the power of intimacy to create and forge...
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Are Your Beliefs About Money Keeping You Poor?
I’m paying the bills today and thinking about the price of the present I just ordered from the catalogue, the expense of the food for my geriatric cat, and the fees for spring soccer. I am starting to...
View ArticleWhy Genuine Compatibility Trumps the Pain of Divorce
Divorce has always scared me. Perhaps it started by witnessing my Mom’s grief and the deep scars that remained from her parents’ divorce. Her case is a somewhat extreme example as she was dangerously...
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