The Space Between Us
"Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them...
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How to Nurture Yourself While Nurturing Your Child
"Usually our ideas of self-care are something you do, child-free, to care for yourself. But what if this form of self-care isn’t possible? Self care can be as simple as taking deep breaths while you...
View ArticleGetting to the Goal Line
As summer winds down and the back-to-school syndrome sets in, for many people this is the start of a “new year.” It’s a throwback to our childhood most likely, but we often think of September as the...
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Henrietta Lacks’ Genes and All of Yours?
“I don’t know what information I want,” a woman whose whole genome was being mapped recently told me. Her son was born with a severe disease, and she agreed to have her genes examined to help find the...
View ArticleConsider the Alternatives for Miley Cyrus
When even the liberal press and fellow performers* despise your performance as out of bounds--in some cases labeling it as an indication of psychological dysfunction--you would seem to be in a bad...
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How to Become More Adult and Successful in Your Life
Fear is the primary enemy to becoming an adult. Psychological defenses that are limiting and to some extent dysfunctional are strengthened and intensified when people become anxious. Yet anxiety states...
View ArticleSuccess Depends More on Friendship Skills than Romantic Ones
If you are around the age of 20, you probably have something on your mind – or maybe just lodged in the back of your mind. In our matrimaniacal culture, obsessed as it is with marriage and coupling and...
View ArticleMaking a Bad Treatment Illegal
California recently passed a law against therapies designed to assist young people to give up their homosexuality. A federal court has just decided that the law does not violate constitutional...
View ArticleA Conversation with Lori Duron and Jennifer Finney Boylan
Jennifer Finney Boylan is the bestselling author of She’s Not There, and the author of the recently published Stuck in the Middle With You: A Memoir of Parenting in Three Genders (available now) which...
View ArticleBrother, Can You Spare a Vicodin?
Many of us deal with financial headaches on a regular basis, but the results of a study just published in the journal “Neurology” demonstrate that the chronic pain of chronic financial woes is not just...
View ArticleReview of _Century of the Self_, a BBC Documentary
It may have been a patient (I can’t recall) who suggested I search online for the 2002 BBC documentary by Adam Curtis called Century of the Self. It turns out the video is freely available at several...
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Are You Smarter Than You Think?
Are we all naturally stupid? Amos Tversky, a prominent cognitive psychologist and one of the founding fathers of modern behavioral economics, said: “My colleagues, they study artificial intelligence;...
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How Well-Meaning Therapists Commit Racism
It can be hard to believe that racism is committed by therapists who may consider themselves to be fairly progressive and egalitarian. After all, most of us go into helping professions because we care...
View ArticleThe Case for Encore Careers
When Bill Gates left Microsoft, he didn’t retire, even though he certainly could have afforded to do so. Instead, he devoted himself to his foundation, which works to improve the lives of others. When...
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Alex Rodriguez & Yom Kippur
Alex Rodriguez huge suspension from Major League Baseball is probably deserved, yet I have sympathy for the way he’s fighting back. You see, A-Rod knows there’s a lot of guilt to go around.Here’s...
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We Two, We Happy Two...
Early in August dueling studies came out concluding that monogamy in humans might, or might not, have evolved because of one, or perhaps two, contradictory explanations.I cannot do better at...
View ArticleTo Be or Not to Be
IntroductionSome three-hundred years ago William Shakespeare gave us Hamlet. Under stress, Hamlet utters the now famous line “to be or not to be?” I offer a part of this soliloquy by way of introducing...
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Do Women and Men “Do” Depression Differently?
For years we have been told that research shows that women are more likely to experience depression than men. But those of us that study masculinity and mental health suspected that this was an...
View ArticleCan an Insult Make You Fall in Love?
Welcome back to The Attraction DoctorI would like to talk about a controversial topic this week - the potential role of insults, put-downs, and negative statements in relationships. While most agree...
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Helping Children Who Cry Easily
Does your child often burst into tears? All children cry, but some seem to be particularly prone to tears. These tender-hearted children may need some extra help in learning to manage their distress....
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