Body language, or nonverbal communication, is not a formal language like verbal communication. There are, however, subtle nonverbal cues that often occur out of awareness that can have a powerful impact on others. Here are some of the common, but lesser-known body language cues.
The Eyebrow Flash. This is the quick raising of the eyebrows that often occurs, often without our knowledge, when we see someone we recognize. At the conscious level, we can use the eyebrow flash as a quick, subtle greeting to others. Human ethologist, Irenaus Eibl-Eibesfeldt studied the eyebrow flash and suggests that it is a universal sign of recognition.
Pupil Dilation. A series of research studies found that pictures of attractive women were rated as even more attractive if their pupils were larger. This goes back to the ancient Egyptian practice of women putting poisonous belladonna in their eyes which caused their pupils to dilate.
The Bowl Gesture. This gesture is when the hands move symmetrically and synchronously upward, forming a sort of bowl with the hands. The bowl gesture can occur when a person is conveying understanding, as if saying, “I’ve got it all here before me.” It is typically viewed very positively by observers, and conveys a sense that the gesturer is wise.
The “Fake” or Non-Duchenne Smile. Extensive research by Paul Ekman and his colleagues has distinguished between real smiles, indicating the emotion of happiness, and feigned happiness. The key is in the eyes. A true smile, or Duchenne smile, involves the eyes, and the narrowing of them that creates the “crow’s feet” at the outer corners. Often the fake smile is used to sort of appease the other person, saying, “I’m smiling, but I’m not enjoying this,” or “I’m humoring you.”
The Baton Gesture. This involves a closed-fist, with the thumb protruding on top, and is a very effective tool used in speaking that conveys emphasis in a positive way. If you have seen speeches by former President Bill Clinton, he makes very good use of the baton gesture.
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