- 1. She shows up.
- 2. She is excellent in a crisis.
- 3. Despite often thrumming with anxiety about her own life, she offers deep calm in yours.
- 4. She does lifecycle events like nobody else:
- 5. She makes the most creative, poignant 10-goodie bags for you to open – one each day – if you ever drive across the country on a horrifying family vacation. This means that each morning you have five minutes of guaranteed joy because she packed you a handmade craft for every damn day, wrapped them gently, placed them carefully into a paper bag and sent you on your way.
- 6. She will send you a poem for every single day of the last month of your pregnancy. Who does that?
- 7. She is a magnificent teacher.
- 8. She has excellent taste in husbands.
- 9. She has excellent taste in spiritual quests.
- 10. She is a visionary director of everything – theater, birthday teas.
- 11. She will give you a Macy’s Day Birthday Parade of your best qualities, complete with a full orchestra of percussive squash – just because you asked.
- 12. She seeks.
- 13. She and her family are the loveliest folks to spend time with.
- 14. No matter the dire circumstance, she will always make time to note if you are wearing an excellent outfit.
- 15. Her home is always beautiful, comforting, cozy, inviting, stunningly appointed and full of love.
- 16. She is a thoughtful, loving, searching, loyal, empathic mother and life partner.
- 17. She is super fun to go on walks with because she points out the Japanese Maple trees and various flora with a deep sense of being present and grateful. She learned this from her mother.
- 18. It’s okay that she’s controlling because she’s always right.
- 19. She is an active, deep listener.
- 20. Her mind and advice are sharp and loving.
- 21. She does not judge; despite a person’s best efforts to make her.
- 22. She does not judge terribly judgmental friends.
- 23. She shares well.
- 24. She appreciates her family and friends and shares her appreciation through multi-formatted writing and crafts.
- 25. If you’ve known her long enough, I mean really, really long enough, she’ll preface saucy observation with: “Well, I remember sitting back stage with you in high school and you said the very same thing.”
- 26. She is saucy.
- 27. She knows how to celebrate.
- 28. She is a seeker.
- 29. Being around her - especially if you’re sitting on her couch but not necessary for this point – is incredibly comforting.
- 30. She’s always got some fabulous show you can go see.
- 31. She always comps your tickets.
- 32. She is not above the gory details – though she comports herself as if she were.
- 33. She does not take for granted.
- 34. She will gently remind you of your truth.
- 35. She remembers a lot.
- 36. She forgets just enough.
- 37. She is forgiving.
- 38. She wants you to know her even though that’s hard for her.
- 39. She always has the best names for phases in one’s life like: “Oh, that was from your black jewelry suicide everything-must-go period.”
- 40. She tells you the truth.
- 41. She is a true leader.
- 42. She gives back to her community in the most practical, loving, generous ways. She combines events of art, community and social justice. Who does that?
- 43. She is a connector – of ideas, of lives, of people, of worlds.
- 44. She does all kinda cool stuff with her hair. (Remember the Billy Idol phase at her wedding?)
- 45. If you could only pick one person, you’d be very, very wise and lucky to pick her.
- 46. Talking to her makes you feel like you are never alone in the world.
- 47. She literally took the shirt off her back and gave it to me because I said I loved it so much and wished it were mine. And then she drove home.
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47 Attributes of A Midlife Mom's BFF on Her Birthday
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