I am currently researching how to help nonBP/NP parents. I will be interviewing some major child psychologists and people who are in a position to help. For now, I would love you to give me answers on some very specific questions WITHOUT going into a major, major story because I need to compile the answers and it will be difficult to wade through a long email to find the answer.
I intend to be as practically helpful as possible and your participation will ensure I ask the right questions and get the answers to the questions you need. I am being specific to info about the children, not has much coparenting issues that affect only you-keep it focused on the kids. I don't need this info until Feb 1, 2012.
If you prefer to send an email, please send it to RandiKreger@gmail.com. I regret that I cannot send you a personal reply, nor can I answer your questions right now--that's why I'm doing the research!
If you respond, you will be agreeing to let me use your response in the book UNLESS you say otherwise.
1) How old are your children/grandchildren?
- 2) What is their situation, eg parents are married, transitioning, divorced?
- 3) Is the parent more BPD or more narcissistic, or both? If you don't know, just say so.
- 4) What do you see as the main problem, eg criticizing, blaming, enmeshment? How bad is it from a scale of 1 to ten? Does this have to do with stuff this during the marriage, transitioning, or divorcing and coparenting?
- 5) What symptoms do your children have, eg problems at school, signs of PTSD? How bad on a scale of 1 to 10?
- 6) Have you stepped in to set limits or somehow make the situation better for the child? Why or why not?
- 7) If so, what have you tried that seems to have worked?
- 8) What have you tried that does not work?
- 9) (Was there ever an event that was the last straw and caused you to step in?
- 10) Is there anything good about the person's parenting?
- 11) Are the kids either your reason for staying and your reason for leaving?
- 12) If you left, have things gotten better for them?
- 13) What questions would you have for a child expert? How could they be of most help to you?
I will compile the answers and base the chapter on what you need most.
Thank you thank you thank you.